What is Love?

What is love?  The majority of us see love as something to be gained or given when in fact that's the opposite of love.  Who knew?

STATE OF DOING

When someone gives me a rose, holds open my door or holds my hair back while I... um well, pray to the porcelain goddess, I've seen this as love. Apparently, this isn't love. Nurturing? Yes. Love. No.

These are actions which are a state of "doing". Actions are wonderful and necessary, don't get me wrong! However, they are actions none the less. What's behind them means more than anything. I know. That's not a new revelation. It's like the old saying, "I don't want you just do the dishes, I want you to want to do the dishes." (Cue men's eyes rolling). 

We feel that when someone gives and really wants to give that this is love. At least I sure did. You bring me chili cheese fries and I'll consider marrying you dude. 

STATE OF LOVING

Love just is. It cannot be given, taken, twisted, melted down, slapped around or created. It. Just. Is. Hard to wrap your mind around? Me too! 

Love is a gift that we have available to us in every moment. When we are following our state of love we will act in ways that allow us (maybe not everyone around us) to feel blissful. When we are allowing the state of love we will act in ways that are genuinely born from real love. 

In short, love isn't an action, it just is. However, actions that follow from being in a state of love bring the highest and most welcome consequences for the spirit. Love as an action is false. Love as a state of being is authentic. 

Love yourself wildly. 

Comments

[Anne Thompson]

This is a great way to see love. It reminds me that everything else is something else. All the pushing, pulling, controlling, expecting; all very unnecessary. The love is there always behind it all, steady and unmoving. That's actually quite comforting. Thank you, Deb!